A lot of us treat the female form as an object subconsciously because of that otherness it offers to men, I think, going over my knowledge of psychoanalytic thought. Think about the sort of imagery we associate with the female body for instance: fruit, plants, etc. Things that are pure, natural, of-the-earth so to speak. Our subconscious sexism is often so deep we don't realise it. Not developing a healthy sexual lifestyle will have a lusting for those delicious fruits and the aromas of those delightful flowers to the extent that you're very greedy, always loving and not letting your own body be acknowledged because you're scared of the rebound thought.
This is an extreme of course, very dramaticised, but it's how I often think about sexual matters. I think too many people seperate physical and emotional love, like they seperate physical and emotional torment. I think you buy them as a set.
I think it is partly somewhat determined by shape like people have said, but the shape is only the barest part of our subconscious attempt to make sense of what we see. I don't know, I really need to enlighten myself again really.
At 3/25/10 05:28 PM, vannila-guerilla wrote:
At 3/25/10 05:21 PM, Gagsy wrote:
Why are cocks so beautiful?
They're not actually.
I disagree. Penises still have beautiful qualities about them. Some of us won't want to admit it because we consider it frightening and abnormal. Penises may take on the inevitably sexist quality in its phallic image, but the fact is that it's a natural tool that can be loved for what it is. Not so much as a cigarette, a gun or a knife, but possibly as a pen, an instrument that creates new thought.
Now that last thought is intensely sexist, but I see it as worse to bar off the possibilities of loving the male body. It can be done, and the simplest way to confirm it is to ask a woman. Seriously, the cock joke part of it all aside, there's as much on the psychological properties of the penis as there is on the female features.