At 1/16/09 06:22 AM, Dew wrote: Woman friends? What are you, gay?

I know right?

At 1/17/09 06:00 AM, Sexylegs wrote:

At 1/16/09 06:22 AM, Dew wrote: Woman friends? What are you, gay?

I know right?

I found it that man friends are nice, but when you wanna talk about some deeper things (and we all do, some of us more or less then average,... but we all wanna talk about our feelings at some point in our lives) when you wanna do that, you really seem to need a woman... because they listen!

And that is a number one problem of this society...

To listen,
just listen...

Ask Him.

I AM MASTER MAURY POVICH

All women are cheaters, some men are.

Lord, I think I'm about to give up on the NG forums, and I've only just dipped my toes in.

At 1/17/09 06:28 PM, FunkyChoch wrote: Lord, I think I'm about to give up on the NG forums, and I've only just dipped my toes in.

For gods sake... what else do you wanna have discussions about? I thought that this was a well formulated piece of text, and it wasn't only skin deep about something trivial like: "show your biceps @ newgrounds"... So, I'm sorry man, but I think the discussions here ought to be more about deeper subjects then just stupid everyday talk... That is exactly what this topic is all about...

At 1/16/09 06:12 AM, Quistybetter wrote: Dear Newgrounders,
...

I don't think you're a cheater at all.
It's been 4 years and you were really young back then... Let's not forget the whole PURPOSE of dating in the first place; the point of dating is 'to find the most suitable partner that you have the highest chance of spending the rest of your life with' now how can you do that when you've only had one single girlfriend before... How can you find the 'most suitable soul mate' if you've only got one person on the list; how are you supposed to know what to expect unless you've experimented a bit. I think that cheating is a very easy mistake to make at 16; it's merely etiquette that you need to dump your old partner before you get a new one; who could blame you for not having any dating manners when you have barely opened for business. I think people are sometimes hypocritical over this; I think that if you're one of those people who does 'partner skipping' from one to the other; all lined up; you've no better than someone who's doing 'partner multitasking'.

Obviously, you're not a partner skipper because your 'turnover' is low so I don't see how anyone could call you a cheater. And 4 years is a long time too.

Take it easy, there, mr. paranoid. If you scroll up a few posts, you'll see I posted a lengthy and thoughtful reply to your topic. I'm more disappointed with fellow posters who have replied to your ropic, many of whom appear to have a high # of posts and many of whom seem to be posting shitty brain droppings, at best.

My faith wanes because I read a lot of noise in here and little signal. But, I guess I shouldn't be surprised.

At 1/18/09 03:30 AM, FunkyChoch wrote: Take it easy, there, mr. paranoid. If you scroll up a few posts, you'll see I posted a lengthy and thoughtful reply to your topic. I'm more disappointed with fellow posters who have replied to your ropic, many of whom appear to have a high # of posts and many of whom seem to be posting shitty brain droppings, at best.

My faith wanes because I read a lot of noise in here and little signal. But, I guess I shouldn't be surprised.

Yeah, thank you, you're right.. I'm sorry:)

You're the one who gave me a in-depth response, I've read it a couple of times, made me think.. Thank you:)!!

No worries, oversights happen. :) For a great example of that, may I suggest a play called "Master Harold and the Boys" ? The movie version has Mathew Broderick and Sidney Poitier in it, pretty well played and IMO very good point to the story.

At 1/19/09 09:16 AM, FunkyChoch wrote: No worries, oversights happen. :) For a great example of that, may I suggest a play called "Master Harold and the Boys" ? The movie version has Mathew Broderick and Sidney Poitier in it, pretty well played and IMO very good point to the story.

The movie has the same name? One of my favourite movies is "A beautiful mind" or "the shawshank redemption"

At 1/16/09 06:12 AM, Quistybetter wrote: yeah, cheating is a terrible mistake, and you can never say you won't do it... until you're in a situation that's like it..
And can now promise he won't do it anymore, because he knows how it feels, and what the consequences are?

I've read these two lines. Can you promise you won't do it again? You just said yourself, that you can't make a promise like that. When the situation arises, you never know what will happen, you've said it yourself. Even though you may have "learned" something from past experiences.

you KISSED another girl.... sound the alarms! You cant be labeled a cheater because of that, thats like... a kiss. that's just not fair, and your 20 now and this is still a huge deal. Man, im sorry but I find this sort of ridiculous.

There is a saying that says "Once a cheater, always a cheater", and in my adult life, sadly, that has seemed to be the case.
But like you said, you were only 16, it was only kissing. I probably wouldn't consider that cheating, especially at that age.

Once you've been cheated on, though, you can't help be very wary about anyone else you see afterwards. The first time you don't answer the phone, or don't reply to a text, she's going to wonder what you're doing that's so much more important. If you're late to do something, or spend more time texting than she's expecting...
It's going to take a lot of time, patience and perserverence on your part to alleviate her fears.

Thank you for that response:) I know it takes a lot of patience, but that doesn't make it any less harder... Because sometimes it looks to me like she has a wall, a gigantic wall that is only for boys... and I need to break through...seems like I can't :(

If she can't tell the difference between a kiss when you were sixteen and actual cheating then she's not worth it.

Yes she is.. I love her... Would do anything for her!

who cares love is all bullshit ive been dating my gf for 6 months and i stlill dont love her

In a woman's mind... once a cheater, always a cheater... FACT

I lot of males cheat.
I'm almost always cheated upon.

I, never cheat, however..

No, once a cheater always a cheater, you selfish pervert.

Just kidding dude. XD

Just tell her:

Look, a man is a cheater, always was, always will be. Now, you can choose to live ignorantly and be happy with me or you can just dump me and die a lonely old hag.

blame canada

Well that's really not fair of her to judge you on a small hiccup from ages ago. I'm right with you here, I was in a happy relationship with this guy about a year and a half ago, but I kissed other guys when I was at parties and stuff. I was always honest and told him straight away because I always regretted it, but when I fell in love with another guy it made me want to change and show him that I wasn't like that anymore, and I never cheated again. So yeah I guess my point is that a leopard can change its spots, and both genders obviously cheat.

I've never cheated, but I have been cheated on.